self-assessment inventories

Liking yourself and doing things to please yourself does not mean that you are selfish. It does not mean that you are egoistic. What it means is that you can be a better Mother, Father friend, coworker, employee or spouse than someone who lacks confidence.

Here are our recommendations for boosting your self confidence

Self Discovery: Self discovery will lead you to know about your self and accept it as it is. You answer questions like:

• Who you are?
• What you can do?
• What do you want?

Acknowledge accomplishments: Now prepare a list of positive achievements and personality characteristics. Forget the negatives and just concentrate on positives.

• List your accomplishments till date
• List your positive characteristics
• Exhibit this list where you can read it daily

Prepare yourself: Your preparation will give you you knowledge, courage, control and strength to achieve your goals. Try to maintain your focus on what you want to do. Look ahead and keep your energy focused on the challenge.

• Prepare yourself for achieving your goals
• Plan meticulously

Perform and Persist: Start action on your plan and keep doing it till you reach the goal. Achieving goals takes work and persistence. Do not stop midway and persist – that is the key.

Here are some Do’s and Don’ts

Don’ts

• Don’t change yourself to please others.
• Don’t compare yourself to or compete with others.
• Don’t let what happened yesterday affect what will happen tomorrow.
• Don’t personalise the failure. Look upon failure as one step toward growth.
• Don’t let your relationships become a hurdle. Sever ties which restrict you.

Dos

• Do maximize your strengths.
• Do believe in yourself.
• Do affirm yourself by replacing negative thoughts with positive ones.
• Do visualize your goals everyday and imagin yourself achieving them and think of the process of reaching them
• Do Speak up, share your thoughts, opinions and preferences.
• Do reward yourself. Every time you pull through a challenging or negative experience, give yourself a treat.
• Do think of something something positive for yourself every morning.
• Do enjoy success. Evaluate yourself by what you have done, what you are doing, and what you can do.
• Do Keep a daily, weekly, or monthly record of your accomplishment and build on these. Each day do something a little better than yesterday.
• Do become an expert on something or some subject and share it with others.
• Do accept compliments positively. Say, “Thank you,” to those who offer praise about your appearance or ability.
• Do maintain your perspective
• Do face each challenge with an open mind.
• Do develop strong relationships – those which help you achieve your goals.

Building self confidence will go a log way for you to be successful in your life. Following these small tips over a period of time will help you believe in yourself and reach your goals.

If you thhik you can – you will!

How you feel about yourself? Answer to that questions decides how you deal with the world around you.

If you are confident then your confidence gives you the courage to set high expectations from yourself and others, to take risk, to grow and prosper, and to reach the goals you want.

If you lack self confidence then you take jobs that are relatively easy setting lower expectations from yourself and others, you avoid risks and do stuff tha will not ask for too much. Those lacking self confidence may be losing out on opportunities for growth and prosperity.

How will I know How Confident I am?

How confident are you? Here is small questionnaire to determine your level of self confidence. The results may help upi in improving your self confidence. To take the questionnaire – just answer “yes” or “no” to the following.

1. I feel that when I do a job, I do it well.
2. I am proud of myself and what I have achieved.
3. I feel good about myself.
4. I am as much or more successful compared to most of my graduating class.
5. I feel that I am a worthwhile person.
6. I feel that if I am dying today I will have no regrets about life.
7. I welcome constructive criticism as an opportunity for growth.
8. I feel that my knowledge and experience enables me to offer good advice to those who ask.
9. I accept mistakes and learn from them.
10. I feel that I can achieve almost anything I desire if I work hard.
11. I feel secure in my interpersonal relationships.
12. I feel that other people regard me as a successful person.
13. I respect myself for what I am and what I can do.
14. I am satisfied with the contribution that I made to the society.
15. I accept failure and see them as a chance to learn and grow.

So now you have responded to all the questions in either “Yes” or “No”. Count all the “Yes” and for each “Yes” give yourself “1″ mark and add them togather.

If you have scored 12 or higher: A score of 12 or higher indicates that you love, like and respect yourself. You have high degree of self confidence. You are content and you accept your positive and negative qualities. You are very enthusiastic about life.

If you have scored 7 to 11 Points: This indicates that while you are confident in some areas at the same time you are lacking in few others. This may also mean that you may be a perfectionist – who sets very high standards in life which result in feeling inadequate about oneself.

If you have 6 or lower points: This indicates you have a low self confidence. You may be lacking the zing in life. Your confidence level may be low due to the experience you had in life.

If you feel that you are high in self confidence despite the low score – may be your mood when you have answered this questionnaire was down.

If you are lacking or are low on self confidence – you can change this. There are ways to improve your self confidence. We will be talking about this in our next post.